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5 lessons learned from my personal trainer

I met my personal trainer, Brian, 13 years ago when I was recovering from an ACL/MCL tear. I was a mom with 2 young kids who was not a runner, not a Girls on The Run coach or MRTT chapter leader, barely lifted any weights, and really had no idea how to get back into prebaby shape. Something just clicked and fitness became a passion of mine. Over the years I’ve learned a lot about myself and what I am capable of.

It might have taken 10 years for me to learn some of these lessons and some I’ve certainly learned the hard way. Apparently I am “not the most coachable person”. There are 5 lessons that have been drilled into my head and I think they have finally stuck!

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5 Lessons Learned From My Personal  Trainer

Every run is not a race

If you are going out there every Tuesday and crushing your neighborhood run, you are not doing yourself any favors. It is important to have easy run days and hard run days.

Every race is not a PR

This is something we talk about in our running group a lot as well. It is unrealistic to think every race will result in a PR and can really set you up for lots of disappointment and increase your chance of injury.

Rest days are crucial for recovery and injury prevention

This one I’ve learned the hard way! Professional athletes take days or even weeks off after a hard race so why would I think that I would not need to do the same? I currently have one full rest day a week and I’ve come to really appreciate the importance of rest in my recovery.

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Run your own race

Another tough one for me. How many times have a gotten to start line of a race only to throw my whole race plan out the window as soon as I started? Know your race day strategy and stick to it. It doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing. I am racing against myself.

Don’t be afraid to die on a run

Training runs are for training right? It’s ok to go out there sometimes and see how fast or how far you can go. It’s okay to totally die on a run and have to stop or walk. How will you know what you are capable of if you never test your limits?

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A big thank you to Brian for being my trainer, psychotherapist, voice of reason, and basically putting up with me all these years. He definitely keeps me healthy, up and running.

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Hi I'm Deborah! I spend my days successfully raising a husband & 2 teens in the VA/DC area. I am a lover of all things running & fitness. As a life long vegetarian, I've always been passionate about healthy living & exercise. Looking for partners in crime, I started my own chapter of Moms Run This Town (MRTT) which has grown to over 700 members. I've met so many amazing women who inspire me daily to keep moving forward. You can usually find me running with my crew and training for the next crazy adventure they talked me into. I love to keep up to date on new running & fitness trends. I definitely choose my running gear based on color and love to express my fashion sense while exercising.

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  1. Annmarie says

    06/10/2016 at 6:53 am

    Love love love this! I think the hardest thing for me to learn was that every run is not a race. Took marathon training to really teach me that!

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 9:54 am

      It is something that I still struggle with as well.

  2. Debbie @ Coach Debbie Runs says

    06/10/2016 at 7:03 am

    Your trainer is a smart man. ???? Even as a trainer and coach myself it is sometimes a challenge to take that advice for myself. Though I don’t worry about PRs anymore. 🙂

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 9:57 am

      It is hard to take your own advice sometimes isn’t it?

  3. Judy @ Chocolaterunsjudy says

    06/10/2016 at 7:14 am

    Those are all great lessons.

    Back when I did workout with a personal trainer for a few years — she’s the first person who taught me that I’m stronger than I thought I was!

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 9:58 am

      Absolutely! I’ve also learned that over the years and how great does that feel?!

  4. [email protected] says

    06/10/2016 at 8:22 am

    I love all these lessons…. I feel like I need to remind myself of all of them on a regular basis!!

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 10:00 am

      Oh he still reminds me daily! It’s easy to get caught up and lose sight of the end goal for me

  5. Karen @ Fit in France says

    06/10/2016 at 8:28 am

    These are great reminders. Not sure if I agree with number 5 though ! 🙂

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 10:01 am

      really? I have a hard time pushing myself to my extreme because I am afraid of what will happen. I’d like to be able to do it just to see.

  6. Jennifer @ Dashing in Style says

    06/10/2016 at 8:51 am

    Sounds like a great trainer! I love the tip “Don’t be afraid to die on a run.” It’s good to remember that training is to practice!

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 10:01 am

      Yes absolutely!

  7. Liz @ The Clean Eating Couple says

    06/10/2016 at 8:55 am

    Having your own trainer can be so helpful. I learned so much when I had one!

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 10:03 am

      Absolutely! I’ve really learned a lot and I am so grateful

  8. Michelle says

    06/10/2016 at 8:56 am

    Sounds like a great trainer! Love the ‘don’t be afraid to die’ one…so true!!

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 10:07 am

      I am still learning how to do that one myself

  9. Kaleigh says

    06/10/2016 at 9:03 am

    This is some really great advice!! I have to remind myself that every race is not a PR. It seemed like I always had a PR in high school and college, but now it’s slowing down, so I need to remind myself it’s okay if it doesn’t happen!

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 10:07 am

      Definitely hard to accept but a great one to learn.

  10. Stephanie @ Wholesome Paradise says

    06/10/2016 at 9:04 am

    That last tip is a good one. I don’t want to literally “die” but it’s a good idea to test your limits during training so you know how far you can push yourself during a race. I don’t race and I don’t run long distances, but these are all great tips.

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 10:12 am

      Thanks so much! Have a great weekend

  11. Susie @ SuzLyfe says

    06/10/2016 at 9:20 am

    Love that you have learned so much about running and life from your trainer! We do what we can 😀

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 10:16 am

      Yes for sure! I don’t think I am the easiest client at times 🙂

  12. Jenn @ Run With Sole says

    06/10/2016 at 9:23 am

    Sounds like you have yourself a great trainer!! As a coach and trainer myself, this is stuff I tell my clients too. It doesn’t always sink in right away but when it does, it makes a world of difference.

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 10:19 am

      It took a few years but yes I agree it makes a world of difference.

  13. Janelle @ Run With No Regrets says

    06/10/2016 at 9:25 am

    That’s awesome that you’ve worked with your training for so many years! It’s hard to believe you haven’t always been super fit and active! I can definitely relate to this advice….run your own race is so important! My coach would always tell me “Trust your training!”

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 10:20 am

      Yes trust your training is a hard one. I sometimes doubt myself right before a race.

  14. Julie @ Running in a Skirt says

    06/10/2016 at 9:31 am

    Such good reminders! I think we can all get wrapped up in being the “best” all the time when it’s all about honoring the process.

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 10:22 am

      Yes I agree!

  15. Meranda@Fairytalesandfitness says

    06/10/2016 at 9:50 am

    These are great tips we all need to keep in the fore front of our mind during a run (or a rest day). I always want to push myself hard on a run but then remind myself that it really doesn’t count for anything. It’s just a training run and it’s okay if I slow down…lol

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 10:23 am

      It’s not always easy to remember that is it?

  16. Tee says

    06/10/2016 at 10:57 am

    The taking a rest concept took me a while! I still struggle with that, and often find “active” things to do on rest days, but I’m trying to learn that rest means rest! And that’s ok! Great lessons!

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 5:02 pm

      Oh I do that too sometimes shh don’t tell 🙂

  17. Sharon says

    06/10/2016 at 11:13 am

    These are all great lessons! Rest days are definitely important and so true to understand that every run is not a race. Sounds like you have a great trainer!

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 5:03 pm

      Thanks I think so too!

  18. Nicole @ Fitful Focus says

    06/10/2016 at 11:35 am

    Sounds like you’ve got yourself a great trainer! Great lessons!

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 5:06 pm

      Thanks I think so too

  19. Tricia says

    06/10/2016 at 11:42 am

    I have learned that you don’t have to always be so serious during your workout. I have the best time visiting with and working out with my trainer. !

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 5:07 pm

      I agree! We have lots of fun together

  20. Mary Beth Jackson says

    06/10/2016 at 11:45 am

    All great lessons! I think the part I like working with my coach is everyday has a goal and it is not just going fast. It takes a well rounded approach to make a well rounded princess warrior 🙂 TGIF!

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 5:07 pm

      totally agree! I’m glad you found a trainer that you love as well

  21. Kimberly Hatting says

    06/10/2016 at 1:48 pm

    Oh gosh, all of the above!! Also, I don’t have my GPS watch me every time I put on my running shoes. The only way one learns to run without technology (and be better in tune with your body) is to run without it …at least some of the time.

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 5:08 pm

      That is true as well!

  22. Jessica says

    06/10/2016 at 2:13 pm

    Yes to rest days! I have a hard time resting sometimes but they are necessary for progress and health.

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 5:09 pm

      It is hard to resist sometimes for sure!

  23. RFC says

    06/10/2016 at 2:25 pm

    Sounds like you have a smart trainer! 😉 I’ve learned so many lessons about and while running, I feel like I could write a book! But I guess the most important one is that no two runs will ever be the same, so run in the “here and now” and don’t stress or compare it to yesterday or tomorrow!

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 5:10 pm

      that is also true! Always more to learn as well

  24. glenneth says

    06/10/2016 at 2:30 pm

    great tips! have a great weekend!

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 5:13 pm

      Thanks you too!

  25. Marsha says

    06/10/2016 at 5:31 pm

    Definitely run my race. I’ve been a runner for a long time. Lately I’ve been listening to all this stuff about how running can actually add more stress to your body and therefore increase cortisol and thus make you less likely to lose that belly fat. Well that’s all fine and good, but I like to run. It’s what makes me feel good and not doing it or doing a slow walk instead, just doesn’t get it. So I’m back to doing what I love to do and what makes me feel good. I do need to embrace a rest day. That’s very hard for me. But a tip from your trainer that I need to take seriously!

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 11:16 pm

      Got to do what makes you feel good for you right?! Yes rest days are hard but necessary. Have a great weekend

  26. Wendy@Taking the Long Way Home says

    06/10/2016 at 7:44 pm

    Wow, 13 years? I’ve been with Becky about 3 years! How do you keep your training fresh?

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 11:19 pm

      Over the years my training evolved with me as I trained for different length races and types of events. I really do look forward to it and enjoy it. It is a long time!

  27. Jill Conyers says

    06/10/2016 at 8:03 pm

    All great lessons for any runner.

  28. Courtney says

    06/10/2016 at 9:25 pm

    I love this. Every one of these is something I believe as well. Have a great weekend!

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 11:19 pm

      Thanks so much! You too

  29. Christina says

    06/10/2016 at 10:41 pm

    I need to remember that it’s OK, and actually, good to push myself on a training run. I tend to forget that.

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/10/2016 at 11:20 pm

      I forget it as well and it’s hard to do sometimes.

  30. Ilka says

    06/11/2016 at 5:56 am

    I love that – not every race is a PR! Hard to accept sometimes but it’s real life!

  31. dixya @food, pleasure, and health says

    06/11/2016 at 7:21 am

    he sounds like a great motivator..

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/11/2016 at 3:59 pm

      He really is!

  32. Laura @ Sprint 2 the Table says

    06/11/2016 at 10:54 am

    All good advice! I’m terrible about the injury prevention… I tend to push and push until I break. That’s starting to get to me the older I am!

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/11/2016 at 4:00 pm

      I did that for a long time and paid the price. I hope I’ve learned my lesson

  33. Chrissy @ Snacking in Sneakers says

    06/11/2016 at 11:26 am

    I love the tip about rest days being necessary. That one is so true. I think the best tip I’ve discovered falls in line with that one, and that’s to take time off for an injury. I think so many of us try to push through injuries but it’s so crucial to pull back if you have them.

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/11/2016 at 4:02 pm

      Yes totally agree but not always easy to do

  34. Carmy says

    06/11/2016 at 12:03 pm

    Every race is not a PR is correct!

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/11/2016 at 4:02 pm

      I know!

  35. Angela @marathonsandmotivation.com says

    06/11/2016 at 3:57 pm

    These are all great tips!!! I love the “Don’t be afraid to die on a Run” 🙂 And of course “Every Run is Not a Race”, so true, words to run by!!!

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/11/2016 at 4:02 pm

      Yes for sure but not always easy to do

  36. Akaleistar says

    06/11/2016 at 9:04 pm

    I love these lessons! They are even great lessons for life outside of training 🙂

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/11/2016 at 10:09 pm

      Thanks! I totally agree 🙂

  37. GiselleR @ Diary of an ExSloth says

    06/12/2016 at 12:17 pm

    Sounds like you have a great PT. I wish I had someone to offer me some consistently good training advice.

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/13/2016 at 6:36 am

      I am very fortunate and appreciative

  38. Lora @ Crazy Running Girl says

    06/12/2016 at 1:33 pm

    Love this! Especially knowing that not every race isn’t a PR, and it’s not designed to be one! I like running races as part of training or just with other people and not worrying about my time.

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/13/2016 at 6:37 am

      That’s a great way to approach them!

  39. Coco says

    06/12/2016 at 9:20 pm

    Wow, it’s great that you’ve had the same trainer for so long and that he’s still helping you get stronger for all the different things you do.

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/13/2016 at 6:40 am

      I know I am very lucky to have him. He is such a great support

  40. Amanda - RunToTheFinish says

    06/13/2016 at 12:55 pm

    That’s the best thing about a great trainer, they remind us we don’t always have to push to the max and sometimes what we think isn’t good enough is pretty amazing!

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/13/2016 at 5:26 pm

      That is so true!

  41. Mar @ Mar on the Run says

    06/13/2016 at 8:06 pm

    all great lessons! It’s interesting because my personal trainer hated the fact that I was a runner. As much strength as I gained I never fully felt supported in that area. Glad you’ve found someone who helps in all areas!

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/13/2016 at 8:30 pm

      Well that is really interesting! He has been a great help in all areas I am really lucky

  42. Rachel @ RachelMcMichael.com says

    06/15/2016 at 4:35 am

    Rest days are so hard for many to do, but it is so important to rest and let your body/joints/muscles take a break.

    • Deborah Brooks says

      06/15/2016 at 6:45 am

      It is sometimes hard to do!

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