I met my personal trainer, Brian, 13 years ago when I was recovering from an ACL/MCL tear. I was a mom with 2 young kids who was not a runner, not a Girls on The Run coach or MRTT chapter leader, barely lifted any weights, and really had no idea how to get back into prebaby shape. Something just clicked and fitness became a passion of mine. Over the years I’ve learned a lot about myself and what I am capable of.
It might have taken 10 years for me to learn some of these lessons and some I’ve certainly learned the hard way. Apparently I am “not the most coachable person”. There are 5 lessons that have been drilled into my head and I think they have finally stuck!
5 Lessons Learned From My Personal Trainer
Every run is not a race
If you are going out there every Tuesday and crushing your neighborhood run, you are not doing yourself any favors. It is important to have easy run days and hard run days.
Every race is not a PR
This is something we talk about in our running group a lot as well. It is unrealistic to think every race will result in a PR and can really set you up for lots of disappointment and increase your chance of injury.
Rest days are crucial for recovery and injury prevention
This one I’ve learned the hard way! Professional athletes take days or even weeks off after a hard race so why would I think that I would not need to do the same? I currently have one full rest day a week and I’ve come to really appreciate the importance of rest in my recovery.
Run your own race
Another tough one for me. How many times have a gotten to start line of a race only to throw my whole race plan out the window as soon as I started? Know your race day strategy and stick to it. It doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing. I am racing against myself.
Don’t be afraid to die on a run
Training runs are for training right? It’s ok to go out there sometimes and see how fast or how far you can go. It’s okay to totally die on a run and have to stop or walk. How will you know what you are capable of if you never test your limits?
A big thank you to Brian for being my trainer, psychotherapist, voice of reason, and basically putting up with me all these years. He definitely keeps me healthy, up and running.
What are some running lessons you’ve learned?
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Annmarie says
Love love love this! I think the hardest thing for me to learn was that every run is not a race. Took marathon training to really teach me that!
Deborah Brooks says
It is something that I still struggle with as well.
Debbie @ Coach Debbie Runs says
Your trainer is a smart man. ???? Even as a trainer and coach myself it is sometimes a challenge to take that advice for myself. Though I don’t worry about PRs anymore. 🙂
Deborah Brooks says
It is hard to take your own advice sometimes isn’t it?
Judy @ Chocolaterunsjudy says
Those are all great lessons.
Back when I did workout with a personal trainer for a few years — she’s the first person who taught me that I’m stronger than I thought I was!
Deborah Brooks says
Absolutely! I’ve also learned that over the years and how great does that feel?!
[email protected] says
I love all these lessons…. I feel like I need to remind myself of all of them on a regular basis!!
Deborah Brooks says
Oh he still reminds me daily! It’s easy to get caught up and lose sight of the end goal for me
Karen @ Fit in France says
These are great reminders. Not sure if I agree with number 5 though ! 🙂
Deborah Brooks says
really? I have a hard time pushing myself to my extreme because I am afraid of what will happen. I’d like to be able to do it just to see.
Jennifer @ Dashing in Style says
Sounds like a great trainer! I love the tip “Don’t be afraid to die on a run.” It’s good to remember that training is to practice!
Deborah Brooks says
Yes absolutely!
Liz @ The Clean Eating Couple says
Having your own trainer can be so helpful. I learned so much when I had one!
Deborah Brooks says
Absolutely! I’ve really learned a lot and I am so grateful
Michelle says
Sounds like a great trainer! Love the ‘don’t be afraid to die’ one…so true!!
Deborah Brooks says
I am still learning how to do that one myself
Kaleigh says
This is some really great advice!! I have to remind myself that every race is not a PR. It seemed like I always had a PR in high school and college, but now it’s slowing down, so I need to remind myself it’s okay if it doesn’t happen!
Deborah Brooks says
Definitely hard to accept but a great one to learn.
Stephanie @ Wholesome Paradise says
That last tip is a good one. I don’t want to literally “die” but it’s a good idea to test your limits during training so you know how far you can push yourself during a race. I don’t race and I don’t run long distances, but these are all great tips.
Deborah Brooks says
Thanks so much! Have a great weekend
Susie @ SuzLyfe says
Love that you have learned so much about running and life from your trainer! We do what we can 😀
Deborah Brooks says
Yes for sure! I don’t think I am the easiest client at times 🙂
Jenn @ Run With Sole says
Sounds like you have yourself a great trainer!! As a coach and trainer myself, this is stuff I tell my clients too. It doesn’t always sink in right away but when it does, it makes a world of difference.
Deborah Brooks says
It took a few years but yes I agree it makes a world of difference.
Janelle @ Run With No Regrets says
That’s awesome that you’ve worked with your training for so many years! It’s hard to believe you haven’t always been super fit and active! I can definitely relate to this advice….run your own race is so important! My coach would always tell me “Trust your training!”
Deborah Brooks says
Yes trust your training is a hard one. I sometimes doubt myself right before a race.
Julie @ Running in a Skirt says
Such good reminders! I think we can all get wrapped up in being the “best” all the time when it’s all about honoring the process.
Deborah Brooks says
Yes I agree!
Meranda@Fairytalesandfitness says
These are great tips we all need to keep in the fore front of our mind during a run (or a rest day). I always want to push myself hard on a run but then remind myself that it really doesn’t count for anything. It’s just a training run and it’s okay if I slow down…lol
Deborah Brooks says
It’s not always easy to remember that is it?
Tee says
The taking a rest concept took me a while! I still struggle with that, and often find “active” things to do on rest days, but I’m trying to learn that rest means rest! And that’s ok! Great lessons!
Deborah Brooks says
Oh I do that too sometimes shh don’t tell 🙂
Sharon says
These are all great lessons! Rest days are definitely important and so true to understand that every run is not a race. Sounds like you have a great trainer!
Deborah Brooks says
Thanks I think so too!
Nicole @ Fitful Focus says
Sounds like you’ve got yourself a great trainer! Great lessons!
Deborah Brooks says
Thanks I think so too
Tricia says
I have learned that you don’t have to always be so serious during your workout. I have the best time visiting with and working out with my trainer. !
Deborah Brooks says
I agree! We have lots of fun together
Mary Beth Jackson says
All great lessons! I think the part I like working with my coach is everyday has a goal and it is not just going fast. It takes a well rounded approach to make a well rounded princess warrior 🙂 TGIF!
Deborah Brooks says
totally agree! I’m glad you found a trainer that you love as well
Kimberly Hatting says
Oh gosh, all of the above!! Also, I don’t have my GPS watch me every time I put on my running shoes. The only way one learns to run without technology (and be better in tune with your body) is to run without it …at least some of the time.
Deborah Brooks says
That is true as well!
Jessica says
Yes to rest days! I have a hard time resting sometimes but they are necessary for progress and health.
Deborah Brooks says
It is hard to resist sometimes for sure!
RFC says
Sounds like you have a smart trainer! 😉 I’ve learned so many lessons about and while running, I feel like I could write a book! But I guess the most important one is that no two runs will ever be the same, so run in the “here and now” and don’t stress or compare it to yesterday or tomorrow!
Deborah Brooks says
that is also true! Always more to learn as well
glenneth says
great tips! have a great weekend!
Deborah Brooks says
Thanks you too!
Marsha says
Definitely run my race. I’ve been a runner for a long time. Lately I’ve been listening to all this stuff about how running can actually add more stress to your body and therefore increase cortisol and thus make you less likely to lose that belly fat. Well that’s all fine and good, but I like to run. It’s what makes me feel good and not doing it or doing a slow walk instead, just doesn’t get it. So I’m back to doing what I love to do and what makes me feel good. I do need to embrace a rest day. That’s very hard for me. But a tip from your trainer that I need to take seriously!
Deborah Brooks says
Got to do what makes you feel good for you right?! Yes rest days are hard but necessary. Have a great weekend
Wendy@Taking the Long Way Home says
Wow, 13 years? I’ve been with Becky about 3 years! How do you keep your training fresh?
Deborah Brooks says
Over the years my training evolved with me as I trained for different length races and types of events. I really do look forward to it and enjoy it. It is a long time!
Jill Conyers says
All great lessons for any runner.
Courtney says
I love this. Every one of these is something I believe as well. Have a great weekend!
Deborah Brooks says
Thanks so much! You too
Christina says
I need to remember that it’s OK, and actually, good to push myself on a training run. I tend to forget that.
Deborah Brooks says
I forget it as well and it’s hard to do sometimes.
Ilka says
I love that – not every race is a PR! Hard to accept sometimes but it’s real life!
dixya @food, pleasure, and health says
he sounds like a great motivator..
Deborah Brooks says
He really is!
Laura @ Sprint 2 the Table says
All good advice! I’m terrible about the injury prevention… I tend to push and push until I break. That’s starting to get to me the older I am!
Deborah Brooks says
I did that for a long time and paid the price. I hope I’ve learned my lesson
Chrissy @ Snacking in Sneakers says
I love the tip about rest days being necessary. That one is so true. I think the best tip I’ve discovered falls in line with that one, and that’s to take time off for an injury. I think so many of us try to push through injuries but it’s so crucial to pull back if you have them.
Deborah Brooks says
Yes totally agree but not always easy to do
Carmy says
Every race is not a PR is correct!
Deborah Brooks says
I know!
Angela @marathonsandmotivation.com says
These are all great tips!!! I love the “Don’t be afraid to die on a Run” 🙂 And of course “Every Run is Not a Race”, so true, words to run by!!!
Deborah Brooks says
Yes for sure but not always easy to do
Akaleistar says
I love these lessons! They are even great lessons for life outside of training 🙂
Deborah Brooks says
Thanks! I totally agree 🙂
GiselleR @ Diary of an ExSloth says
Sounds like you have a great PT. I wish I had someone to offer me some consistently good training advice.
Deborah Brooks says
I am very fortunate and appreciative
Lora @ Crazy Running Girl says
Love this! Especially knowing that not every race isn’t a PR, and it’s not designed to be one! I like running races as part of training or just with other people and not worrying about my time.
Deborah Brooks says
That’s a great way to approach them!
Coco says
Wow, it’s great that you’ve had the same trainer for so long and that he’s still helping you get stronger for all the different things you do.
Deborah Brooks says
I know I am very lucky to have him. He is such a great support
Amanda - RunToTheFinish says
That’s the best thing about a great trainer, they remind us we don’t always have to push to the max and sometimes what we think isn’t good enough is pretty amazing!
Deborah Brooks says
That is so true!
Mar @ Mar on the Run says
all great lessons! It’s interesting because my personal trainer hated the fact that I was a runner. As much strength as I gained I never fully felt supported in that area. Glad you’ve found someone who helps in all areas!
Deborah Brooks says
Well that is really interesting! He has been a great help in all areas I am really lucky
Rachel @ RachelMcMichael.com says
Rest days are so hard for many to do, but it is so important to rest and let your body/joints/muscles take a break.
Deborah Brooks says
It is sometimes hard to do!