This is a post I’ve been wanting to write for a long time but just wasn’t sure how to go about it. Like perhaps many of you, I have had a love/hate relationship with my scale since as long as I can remember. For many years I let a number on my scale dictate my mood for the day, influence my self esteem and define my self worth. Just rereading that last sentence, it jumps out to me how ridiculous that is. I ditched my scale and here’s what I’ve learned.
Friend or Foe?
Some days the scale was my BFF showing me numbers I thought were “good” and reinforcing my sense of control. The “good” number told me I was making the right exercise and nutrition choices. Ah these were the days that made it all worth it or were they?
Then as quickly as my BFF could say restart, she turned on me. Wait what happened? Are we not friends anymore? These were the days that I second guessed everything and felt insecure and frustrated. I really gave this battery operated gizmo lots of power.
After working for many years in the eating disorders field and learning more about myself, the scale began to have less power over me. As I’ve grown older and immersed myself in the running and fitness scene, that has helped me to feel more confident and secure. However, that darn scale was still there looking at me. I would still allow my old “friend” to exert her peer pressure.
I ditched her!
Then one day, about 2 years ago, I ditched her! I went cold turkey and broke up with her. I moved on and we don’t hang out anymore. So what happened you ask? Well absolutely nothing. I didn’t gain tons of weight or stop fitting in my clothes but what I did gain was a new perspective.
What I’ve learned
-Women have normal weight fluctuations throughout the month and there is no need at all for me to monitor them on a daily basis. They are going to happen no matter what I do.
-I know I eat a well rounded, healthy vegetarian diet with what I believe to be the right amount of calories for me. I don’t need a number on a scale to tell me that.
-I know I exercise 6 days a week, don’t smoke & rarely drink. I know I make good choices and live a healthy lifestyle. I don’t need a scale to remind me of that.
-Age and weight really are just numbers! Neither one is meaning a whole lot to me right now. I feel better than I ever have.
-It’s so liberating! I am genuinely so much happier not letting a number define my self worth or mood for the day. I’ve realized there are so many more important things.
It’s been 2 years since I’ve last chatted with my ex-friend and I don’t miss her at all. I realize that ditching the scale is not the right decision for everyone but it is the right choice for me. I’d love to know how you feel about the scale?
Tell me: Is the scale friend or foe for you?
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